Category Archives: Culture

There is a lot of fuss around zeroing down on a name for your toddler and my sister has conveniently distributed her task among every member of the family.
Picking out the most appropriate name is too much pressure.. think about it- many young Indian souls are stuck with names like Hardik (if you get what I mean 😉). You would not want any member of your own family to deal with that kind of trauma.

My parents were lazy.. in their defence they did not have access to Google back then. My sister was named Philishya and when the second child was brought in.. they just had to find something that rhymes and that is the account of how I am stuck with ‘Delisia’ (I love my name.. I just do not like the way I ended up with it).


So the first filter in name finding is always- the caste filter. In our case- ask Google to get you a list of Christian Names.
Anjali, Shankar, Om – a total no no!


We can not reuse names that are already owned by another family member – so Hannah, Rachel, Stephen, Esther, Serah,Nathan and all the desirable names are expurgated.


Then is the generation filter, now there are some names that our grandparent generation have overused .. names like Sarah, Mathew, Paul (Philip too!!).. We can not let our little one be already outdated.!


Hitler, Osama, Kasab and likes are some of the most infamous scandalous personalities the world has witnessed. And needless to say, the slightest chance that your kid might live up to the expectations of the notorious personalities who have donned the name before, should not be taken


The last and yet the most important one is the pronunciation filter.. yes! This is one of  the most unavoidable ones.
Like I mentioned somewhere above, people with names like Hardik are most likely to be mentally traumatized at some stage of their life. If teenage was kind to you, adolescence will hit you.. and if you say nothing hit you.. I do not believe you!!
So when I read a name from the list.. I read every syllable carefully back and forth.. because I do not want the name to have any kind of secondary meaning or slangs associated with it or with any of its syllables.



Digging Deep on why Birds of the same feather.

Have you ever noticed that in 8 of 10 cases people share the strongest possible kind of friendship usually with those who speak their same tongue?
{ 4 of 5 friends I earned from the days, I had only milk teeth to showcase each time I smiled, are southies *though the left out 1 was a Nepali, friends like her implicate the phrase “Sister from another Mister” rightly* … so I just totaled it up out of 10 and lo.. that is how I came up with that number! 😉 }

This time Google didn’t offer me any article pillaring my epiphany. In India, Google says we speak 122 languages (excluding profanity. 😉 ). Not many countries have such a variety of local tongues spoken among their populace. Here every language has their own subordinate division emanating from their linguistic varieties,just like English spoken within the US is different from that spoken by ‘The English’ and it is certainly poles apart the Indian English. And so this enlightenment showers its light precisely in case of the Indian scenario.

It’s hard to sum up to a particular reason behind this question mark. Here are some bullets I came up with to corroborate this surmise.

1. Parent Friendly
These are the ones you obliviously arrange for yourself keeping your parents’ perspective in reverence. This kid knows to strike the perfect conversation with your parents, and is the ideal candidate to take home with you when mother invites your Friends home, for supper. For some reason your parents cool down tout de suite as you tell them your late but your with “this” friend.

Friends from the same cultural background have a lot of common grounds to hang on to. There are some stereotypes that cling with each culture like Marwaris are assumed to be misers, while South Indian people are believed to have the funniest accent, and the Gujaratis are known for their shrewd business sense, Like minded birds flock together in the end. And it just doesn’t end there, there maybe a festival to celebrate together, a dish that only two of you could reason is tasty.( Gujaratis prefer sweet vegetarian dishes where as southies don’t let their food digest without at least a titchy morsel of meat). Different Leaders are worshipped in different parts of the country, like Jayalalitha is for the Tamilians and Modi for the Gujaratis. And a lot more jazz I’m sure that I have missed on could eventually propagandize likeness among people.

Dsouza’s, Dias, Dmello’s are Christian surnames, and when your sorted in class based on your surname all you guys end up together, just like the Achrekars, Ambekars and Amrutes.  A friend in need is a friend indeed. So these are you back-ups during exams and practicals. And friendships are eventually bound to breed.

The last and the biggest advantage is the”No-one else knows your language” USP. We can crap about the one sitting right besides without releasing an ounce of suspicion.